Mom and R got the bad news today. R has lung cancer. We don’t know yet how bad it is, but it doesn’t sound good. He’s been battling bladder cancer for the past 18 months or so, it keeps coming back. That lead to some additional tests. He’s also had emphysema for about 10 years. Last week they told him he had walking pneumonia, guess they took x-rays, found something in his lungs. They did some sort of test yesterday (they were supposed to remove some fluid. I guess they found evidence of cancer. They talked with the oncologist today. If the cancer is limited to one lung they’ll remove it. If it’s in both he’ll go through chemo. They’ll know tomorrow what they will do.
I feel so bad for Mom, she never figured on outliving her husband. We’ve already talked about it among ourselves that they can live with us for the duration, though getting to and from dr visits will take longer as we live about 40 minutes away. Unfortunately, and predictably, they prefer to stay where they are, so we will have to drive down to their place, and take them to the doctors from there. Not the most convenient arrangement, but whatever works for them.
We have a dear friend, B, who has HepC, he has been going through hell for the past 10 years, finally got on the liver recipient list, only to be pulled off the list less than a year later. There is a tumor on his liver. Why that bumps him off the waiting list has not been made clear to me. Two years ago he went through stem cell therapy in Thailand. He felt wonderful for about 4 months, then everything reversed itself and . Don’t know if the therapy didn’t work or if it may have actually made things worse. Regardless, his next plan is experimental treatment in Mexico. The thing is, it’s a cash operation down there, and he’d have to bring some $15,000 into Mexico. Not a good idea for many obvious reasons.
I can’t imagine going through chemotherapy at 80. He’s been through it three times for the bladder cancer and tolerates it well, but is it all the same? Would it be tougher now that he’s been weakened by the cancer and emphysema and pneumonia? 80 is a good long run at life, but I suppose he could see 100, so it might be worth going through. For me, I don’t think I’d go through it at 80, but then again, if the situation actually presented itself would I grasp at any straw to stay alive? Like B traveling to Mexico. There’s no way I’d travel to Mexico with more than $200 cash on me. In fact, right now there’s no way I’d go to Mexico at all. Would I change my mind if there was a chance I’d live five more years?