I’ve been really unmotivated for the past few days, but did some work today. I had to, we’re bringing Mom and R up for Thanksgiving. I even swept the decks. Still have the bathroom to clean and the kitchen to mop, but the house looks pretty presentable. I’m done for today. I’ve got all day tomorrow to finish.
R has gone for more tests this week. Yesterday he had and MRI, of what, we’re not sure. His whole body maybe? We hate to ask too many questions, but Mom is fairly practical about all this. They have placed all their papers in order and told us where to find them after they are gone. They’ve asked for no funeral or gathering of any kind. They would like us to let free two balloons. We’ll give GS the honor of letting go of them. They gave their bodies to USC. The school will keep their bodies for study for 15 years after which they will cremate them and contact next of kin to arrange to pick up urns. It looks so cold and business like written there, but it is such a kindness to your family. We have very little to worry about when they pass.
I am thankful this year to my mother in law and her husband, for thinking ahead. I worked in estate planning for 10 years and am familiar with all the feelings associated with making those end of life decisions. Many people find it very uncomfortable. I am glad Mom and R are so practical and have made this so much easier for us.
I’m anxious that we have a great Thanksgiving, for it looks very likely to be our last with them. Dinner is going to be a bit improvised; our oven door has broken and we won’t be able to get it fixed until next week. The in-laws are accustomed to having ham, so I went to find a small one. Apparently there is no such thing as a small ham, or maybe 8 lbs is small. I don’t know, this is the first time I ever bought one. (We gave up red meat some 30 years ago.) I bought one that’s pre cooked, so theoretically all I have to do is heat it. How long to microwave an 8 lb ham? I suppose I could put it in the broiler on low. That’s how I plan to cook my chicken breasts–I couldn’t find any turkey breasts, and a whole turkey would be impossible to cook without an oven. It may not smell like Thanksgiving, but I’ll do what I can. I’m sure it will be a memorable one.