A New Chapter

I have not been inclined to blog lately and it makes me feel guilty.  I haven’t checked in with my favorite blogs in days.  There’s so many people to catch up with, but some of them are also taking a hiatus, and one of my favorite blogs seems to have disappeared altogether, or at least become inaccessible.  And to top it off, WordPress has snuck in a bunch of changes.lonely

I feel, as have many before me, that I may be done blogging, at least for now.  But the relationships I’ve made have been very important to me.  So many people here helped me make changes these last 2 years or so.  Why stop blogging?  Honestly, I’m not sure.  It just seems I don’t need to anymore.  The connections I’ve made here were so vital to me for so long, now seem more tentative and distant. 

I feel as if I’m closing a chapter in my life and wonder if that means I close the door on the friendships I have made?  Do people come into our lives only to teach us and move on?  Has my need for friends lessened?  Perhaps I’ve just become more interested and involved with the “real” world.  But I feel an obligation here.

thU5O54C3II feel as if I am leaving a job where I’ve made lots of friends.  Exchanging phone numbers and promising to stay in touch, except you know it doesn’t work that way.  You stay in touch for a bit, sending emails, and passing on jokes, but it just doesn’t last.  At least for me it hasn’t. 

Maybe I’m saying good bye here, but I don’t think so.  Maybe I’ve moved to a place where I don’t need to blog anymore.  But there are so many stories out there that I want to know the ending of.  And then there’s the guilt.  I need to know what’s happening in my friends’ lives.  I hope they need me as well.  I may not be as active on WP as before, but I’m still here.  I want to keep in touch with the many fine people here.

16 thoughts on “A New Chapter

  1. I hope you do know that it’s okay to step away from something you’ve been doing and enjoying. There are other facets of life to explore and possibilities to consider. You can often return to the things that bring you joy and fulfillment. Consider being in flow and simply allowing “what’s next” to manifest.

    And be kind to yourself. 🙂

  2. I have slowed down for a time also… While lately because of the email hack I’ve don’t some on that…. I think it’s just that there are times we have to choose our priorities and they change because of life… I’m not leaving but I am slowing down… My concentration and even thoughts to blog about are lacking right now… When the time is right I think they will flow again. The last few I’ve done have been of a negative nature and I don’t like that. I think some of what I’m feeling is just plain fatigue … Still waiting for appointment with surgeon now.

    I think for you with your move and a more serene feeling .. and doing more with your husband, it has given you a zest to just do other things.. and that’s great. But, and this is a selfish ‘but’ don’t go completely…. Keep in touch…because you have been a good friend and I ‘would’ be sad not to be in touch with you… We may have some differences as far as ‘faith’ goes but we have managed to be good friends… Diane

    1. It does feel as though it’s just a phase many bloggers appear to go through. I’m sure you’re right and I will be slowed down for now, but will gain momentum as we get settled into more of a routine.

      You have been a great friend and I would miss you should I stop blogging. But I will always try to stay in touch via email. I have so few friends, I can’t afford to turn my back on anyone.

      I’m sorry you are feeling so negative lately. Sometimes it’s really hard to find that silver lining. I send you thoughts of peace and comfort. I hope your wait for surgery is short.

  3. Life changes constantly. Some months I’m more outgoing, others extremely reserved. There’s no rule- no single way to do things. Allow yourself to be at ease with whatever feels comfortable right now. These decisions aren’t final, just part of a process 🙂

    1. Thank you, Edward, for your kind words. You really make me feel better.

      Hope all is well. I’ll be catching up with you! Your posts are always thought provoking and worth a read.

      1. At your leisure, and if you don’t feel like it, that’s okay too!
        One of my rules for life is no pressure. Neither directed ‘at’ me, or coming ‘from’ me. Pressure just wastes or even ruins what could otherwise be a good time. Don’t let other people do it to you and don’t do it to yourself!
        If it’s time to chill and enjoy the new apartment and experiment with other things life has to offer, then that’s what you must do. And do it without guilt.

  4. We have missed you but know that you have been busy acclimating to your new life. The blogging process is so peculiar and reflects our emotions and lives just as unpredictably as life itself. I hate to think that you will feel lonely without your blogging friends although it is nice that you feel more involved with “real” people. Just know we will always be here, whatever you decide to do.

  5. I understand completely. I go through phases with it. I truly value the relationships I make in the blogosphere, but I also have to maintain a balance and make sure I’m showing up and being present in my “in person” life. I’ve missed you, but I sense that you are in a better place and that makes me happy. You are such a kind, interesting, giving person. Do what you need for you and adjust to your new home.

    1. You are so kind. I have also missed my blogging friends’ updates, and am trying to reconnect. I fear I may only be blogging 2-3 times a week, but I try to read and comment everyday.

  6. Linda, I suppose we have all felt the conflicting feelings you are having now and have had to work through them as best we could. For myself I try to keep my “reading/commenting” time to an hour or so a day in order to have more time for writing haiku. From the first day I came to WordPress, you were there and I soon began to count you among my real friends, not just some hazy, digital non-person.
    Whatever you decide concerning blogging, I pray you will say “hi” via email any time you like! I’ll be here and will always love to hear what’s going on in your life! (My email address is under my gravatar on every comments page.) Hugs! — Ron —

    1. I think for now I will just be blogging less. Only posting 2-3 times a week, but reading/commenting almost every day. I will set aside a time each day to do so. I do want to keep in touch with so many here.

  7. the friendships we make here in this community are vital during a time when we are unable to connect with other’s on the level we need and receive the support that gives us the strength to move from one phase to another.

    I have enjoyed our friendship and hope to hear from you again if you decide to stop blogging. when I am not feeling well enough to blog I feel guilt too, not just for not writing but for not reading other blogs as I would like.

    it is with great hope and optimism I believe you are in a better place now and maybe you don’t need us the way you did at one time. maybe you are finally finding that peace of heart that can bring you so much.

    please know that I continue to care about you and your happiness. your friendship has been a beautiful gift.

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